WHAT IS THE DOM/SUB CAP PROTOCOL?
Often those new to D/s (Dom/sub) exchanges are not familiar with the behaviors that I (and many/most Dominas) expect. For instance, I expect to be called “Goddess”, even in chat or email, and to never be addressed casually. (“Hey”, “hi”, and “u” are all examples of unacceptably informal or familiar address.) I also use what I refer to as the “Dom/sub capitalization protocol”. Most potential subs pick it up quickly, simply by observing Me, but occasionally someone requires a detailed, written explanation. The following is a thorough breakdown of Dom/sub Capitalization Protocol, plus a few other good practices when conversing with Dominas.
The Basics: Always capitalize any reference to Me, including titles and pronouns, such as “Goddess”, “Mistress”, “You” and “Your”. Use all lowercase letters to refer to yourself. This includes your name and your pronouns. Examples: “my name is joe, Goddess”. “Thank You for Your time, Goddess.” “i had a question for You about hypnosis, if You have time.” And so on.
Introduce yourself: Always begin a chat session by politely introducing yourself, even on NF. No one wants to call you by your silly username. Provide your first name immediately, preferably before being asked. Example: “Hello, Goddess. i’m joe. i wondered if You had a moment to answer a question…” Tip: using your real first name will enhance your experience. (Conversely, being repeatedly called a name that is not yours could be distracting and take you out of the scene.) If you want to differentiate your “personas”, use an informal version of your usual name, such as “billy” for “Bill” or “mike” for “Michael”.
WHEN CONTACTING A NEW DOMINA…
When contacting a new Domina, assume She is busy and in high-demand. Remember that She doesn’t owe you anything, not even Her time. It is your job to impress Her, not the other way around. Therefore, be respectful and appreciative. Don’t frivolously waste Her time with questions you could get answered elsewhere with a few seconds of effort.
Never contact a Mistress before reading Her website and/or profile carefully (several times). She probably spent hours crafting it and She did so for a reason. It is disrespectful to skip Her introduction and/or to ignore Her preferences. If She’s been a Dominatrix for more than a day, I guarantee She has been asked the same questions over and over again. Which is WHY She took the time to write out a profile and/or introduction. So the first thing a polite, respectful, potential sub should do is READ ALL AVAILABLE INFORMATION CAREFULLY.
Another important habit: notice how the Domina does things and do what She does. For instance, if all of Her listings and profile list Her as “Mistress Jane”, don’t address Her as “jane”, “hey”, or “Ma’am”. She’s already told you how She prefers to be addressed; don’t be dense. If She wants you to call Her “Miss” or “Ma’am”, She will tell you. Likewise if she uses capital letters for Her own pronouns and lowercase letters for yours, do the same. Pay attention to the behavior She is modeling and demonstrate that you are conscientious and teachable.
WHY I USE THIS FORMAT IN CHAT & EMAIL
There is a very deliberate reason I insist on this protocol during chat or email correspondence. I want my subjects to feel the difference between corresponding with a buddy or a pen pal and with Me, their Goddess. My intention is to approximate the in-person dynamic between a real Queen, Mistress, or Domina and Her devotees, and this requires a special convention for communicating. (Just like Royalty requires particular titles, curtseys or bows, and other special manners.) This is why I require all subjects to use My title “Goddess” or “Domina”. (Note that I am not automatically your “Mistress” just because you have visited My website or purchased one mp3, and I do not care for the title “Ma’am”.)
This special convention or protocol also includes the unusual capitalization explained above. Yes, I am aware this can feel counterintuitive and be difficult to remember at first, but that is the point. A D/s exchange should be an experience outside your everyday norm, and that requires more effort than merely reaching for your wallet. I want you to be present and to interact with Me mindfully, to be very aware that I am not just any woman, and to enjoy the full experience of obedience, submission, and devotion.
“HypnosisGoddess is remarkable. i was expecting just a casual get-acquainted sort of chat but She took control almost instantly. She’s clearly a master not only of hypnosis, but also of power exchange.”
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